Tuesday, December 31, 2013

A Toast To 2014

I thought I wasn't going to publish anything new until next year, but I'm in the holiday spirit. So I am writing this post for everyone. I'm glad no one that knows me can see me right now. My face currently has that winter look. You guys know what I'm talking about. You're so occupied with wanting to stay warm and inside during winter season that your upcoming hair appointments doesn't become the topic of discussion anymore. So right now, my hair is wild and everywhere from my head to my face.

My barber is going to get quite the phone call from me.

Words cannot express how much I'm excited for the New Year. 2013 has been the most challenging year of my life when it comes to independence.

Even though people knew who I was socially, I was still a struggling artist, who was trying to show people my talent more than just showing that I was a pretty face. I had to learn that some friendships were only supposed to last for a season, and that you shouldn't get too attached when they disappear from your lives. I was self-absorbed and caught up in so pride that it led me to a lot of difficult situations because I refused to ask for help. I was enabled by people to change who I was a person in order to get recognized by people, who would look the other way because I wasn't a physical representation of what was hot and new.

My biggest revelation was right after my 22nd birthday back in September.

I was accepted into college. I moved into my new apartment following traditional paperwork standards. When I was the editor-in-chief of Gay Men of African Descent's online newsletter, people praised me for being original and stepping out of the box in a non-provocative way. My writings on Roque's Reality were viewed by hundreds of people a day. I began to not be afraid of my voice and understanding that my voice matters just like everyone else. This all happened because of one thing. Just being me and not portraying something else.

I'm so excited for the 2014. I'm going to college for the first time. I have deals with editors of magazines and websites to write original pieces for them. Roque's Reality is going live with new material as a lifestyle website. I have a new direction on life. It's kind of like an evolution and a revolution all at the time.

The beauty about New York City is that it's fast life can cause you to grow up faster while still keeping your youth. I know I'm mature, but I am far from being grown. I am going to live out my twenties until their gone. Let's have fun and enjoy the New Year.

Don't forget to write your resolutions. I know I am. Happy New Year everyone!

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

More Muscles, More Cravings

Winter has arrived, which means things are a little bit lazy in the fitness department. It depends on the type of person you are. Some people can go to the gym during the winter with no problem at all. But there are people like me who do get affected by winter, making it difficult to have the slight thought on going to the gym. But I'm grateful for has happened recently with my body.

With healthy eating and a good workout regime, I've gained 22 pounds in the past two months. I'm ten pounds larger than I've ever been in my life. This was quite the shocker, for I had doubts that my short stature of 5'3 would ever reach. Normally, a short person would reach a particular goal in weight and just remain there for the rest of their life. I'm still gaining weight. So maybe my body hasn't reach that statistical limit.

Still, I've accomplished two goals when it comes to fitness: gaining weight and cutting it through work out regimes. Using the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth has been a blessing. But like all goals, in comes a new challenge.

My challenge is my endless cravings for more food. The reason for it being a challenge is because I'm not a heavy eater. I drink more than I eat. I remember finding it difficult consuming well balanced meat in my mouth, trying to reach the goal of 5,000 calories a day. Don't get me wrong. I'm a huge foodie. I love eating food. But it's kind of a different story when you realize that instead of eating out of moderation, you're eating like it's a chore.

I'm slowly adapting to eating more than I used to. All I know that this is my current challenge, which I am more than willing to concur.

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Socialite Stories - Fop Magazine Launch Party

A few nights ago, I was honored to have attended the magazine launch party of Fop Magazine at the Barracuda Lounge. This was my first time at the bar, which I found very interesting and spontaneous. The party was a celebration of the first issue, which was also named the Pleasure Issue.

Fop magazine is a fashion and lifestyle magazine geared towards gay men. What I love about the issue is that it's a balance without being oversexed. I look at some magazines and think they are there is too much sexual content in it. Even though it's an attractive thing to see, there needs to be a balance or else the message and the material will be overshadowed. Fop did a wonderful balance with the pleasure and I want everyone to read this wonderful new magazine.

As soon as I walked through the door, I was greeted by this man, who I later realized was Quentin Fears, the editor-in-chief of the magazine. We had a few conversations during the entire night, which were all funny and entertaining. I found him to be great company with an amazingly energetic personality.

While I was sitting down reading the first issue, I couldn't help but to notice the television screens were mirroring the theme of the party. It was displaying a variety of pleasurable scenes. I couldn't help but to notice the many scenes. One minute after the next, I was looking at bedroom sex, BDSM, outdoor sex, shower sex, bathroom make outs, etc. I'm sure the average horny male would try and steal that slide show from the cinematographer's laptop.

Still, the overall party was outstanding. I'm grateful to have met the people I went to. Congratulations to Quentin Fears for his amazing work. Can't wait for the next one.

Thursday, December 12, 2013

True Fashionisa Now Article- NIQUEA.D Store Opens In New York City

One day, I had the delight meeting Tyrone Farley, who is the editor-in-chief of True Fashionista Now, a wonderful fashion website that I can now call myself a fan of.

In the middle of getting to know one another and talking about what I do, he asked me to write a piece the opening a new store in Manhattan. I was excited to write a piece like this. It was my first time writing a article for a fashion magazine. There was slight nervousness due to not much experience in writing about fashion. However, I was confident that I could do this piece.

Before I know it, I went to the party and created a socialite/fashion piece in a matter of hours while still having a great time with the people I've met. With that being said, click on the link below and check it out my contributing fashion article to True Fashionista Now.

Monday, December 9, 2013

I Got Splashed On

We all have those moments when we felt like something that happened came from right out of a movie. Mines was a few days ago on my way to the train station.

I was leaving my apartment and heading over to the train station to begin my day. It was slightly raining outside, but it didn't bother me, for I was too focused on trying to get the right music on my Android phone playing. David Guetta was on my mind most of the time that day.

My walking got me over to the end of the block and one more block away from the train station. My Android got me so distracted that I didn't realize that there was a puddle of water right in front of me. It was too late at that point.

Two cars drove by me and I got splashed on as they drove by. The driver looked back for a moment, but then retreated, so that they wouldn't talk to me.

It's amazing how things like this happen unexpectedly.

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

I'm Young And Mature But Not Grown

There are many young people like me that considers ourselves "old souls." Based on the many things I've experienced at an early age, I can't help but to notice that my maturity and perspectives on my life is well beyond my current early 20s. Sometimes, you ask yourself "Why am I experiencing all of this right now? I'm only in my 20s."

Life doesn't give you a proper answer. You can't help but to just go in the right direction of where your life is taking you. That's how I look at my life all the time.

I have lots of older friends. Most of my friends are in their 30s and above. I know most people consider that weird, but that was my life as like for the last three years. I'm sure I'll be clicking people permanently around my age when I entered the halls of college, but I'm just describing my current friendships.

These are the first of many examples why I seemingly grew up faster. But after a recent encounter with a few established older people, my true age was showing itself.

I was having a meeting with a few well established businessmen. There I was, acting all mighty, talking the way I'm always talking, etc. They rolled their eyes at me and paused me.

"How old are you?" they asked.

"I'm 22," I answered.

"Why are you trying to act old? You're far from trying to speak the way you speak. Just act like your age. You don't have to act grown to try and convince. Be young with a young taste in work."

It was in that moment that my true age came out. The wall of maturity I've been building for years was suddenly destroyed in one statement. I didn't know how to come up with a defense in that moment. I was totally embarrassed for I knew he was right. I was 22 trying to act 40, but this already 40 year old saw through my act, and embarrassed me in less than a minute.

I walked out that meeting realizing that I had to accept the truth. I am young and mature, but I got a long way to go before I call myself a grown man. Until then, I'm going to live my 20s the way it's supposed to be. Dancing, socializing, career obsessed, everything.

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

That's A Lot Of Water

I was at an event where I ran into a old friend of mine. We haven't seen each other because he's been doing his college work for the last year. So we haven't had a chance to catch up and reacquaint for a long time. When I saw him I found myself going into a temporary jealous rant. He had the smoothest, clearest, most healthy I face I ever have sen for a male during the winter season. Everyone knows the winter season makes your skin look like your own products aren't working. So I found it so shocking that his skin was so clear.

"How is your skin so clear?" I asked him.

"I drink eight cups of water a day," he began. No sodas. No sugars. No junk food. It's my own personal cleanse."

As soon as he said that, my eyes opened wider than a owl's eyes. We are always told to drink a lot of water, but I have never seen the physical effect on what happens when you drink a lot of water. All of what Alkaline Guru's teachings was showing itself right in front of me. It took only the physical appearance of my friend to inspire to try out that cleanse.

For the first week, I drunk nothing but water and cranberry juice. Cranberries are told to clean you up, so I couldn't help but to add it to the mix.In the beginning, I thought it was going to easy. I thought wrong.

It was hard for me to make it to the fifth cup. I found myself going to the bathroom one too many times. I can feel the liquid moving around after consumption. I understand that it takes time to reach a particular point in your life when it comes to a cleanse, but the first two weeks was ridiculous. But just like everything, the first week is always going to be hell. Once the last week was over, drinking water and managing my time to eject in the bathroom became simple and easy.

Still, I give thanks to my friend for physically showing me the wonders of living a healthy lifestyle. I have added and water and cranberry juice to my everyday regime.

Friday, November 22, 2013

The New Guy In The Established Friendship Circle

When it comes to friendships some people are given the amazing opportunity in life to be friends with the same people that they've known for years. Whether meeting friends from high school or college, these groups of people have created a circle that has lasted for years. For the average individual, its a miracle to have a friendship that lasted nowadays for over a decade.

But all people don't go through friendship related experiences like that. There are some people that have to meet their possible friendships by walking into an already established friendship circle.

That is a recurring event that I've been experiencing lately.

I'm no longer in contact with my high school friends because we have gone our separate lives into adulthood. I'm just entering college. So I don't have those close college people yet. I've taken the personal out the business relationships I've developed with the people I work with. I have turned into one of those people who always happens to be friends with people who already has created their own group of friends.

I used to have that dream that when it comes to friendships, there was only going to four or five of us together for the rest of our lives. We do have acquaintance, but at the end of the day, when it comes to guys night out, it was just going to be the five of us all together.

That ain't the case nowadays. The thing that we experience now is meeting someone who has a group of friends, who themselves have a group of friends. This is the reality that some of us face.

I got a large realization when I visited my friends on the set of a web series. I always like my friend and his energy. So you do have those expectations that the two of you and a few other people are going to be friends forever. But then I saw him with his friends and I realized he already had an established friendship. Every single one of them have known each other for years, and I was just this new guy that popped up out of nowhere.

It took me time to realize this, but I've learned to accept that this is the reality about some friendships. We either have those friends we've had for life or we have friends with a group on the side.

Friday, November 15, 2013

I Wasn't Ready For College Until Now

It took four years after high school, but I'll be entering the halls of college on January 24 for the first time. That means once again, I will be part of what it's like growing up as a freshman. I've been told numerous times that it's different from high school. When you're in high school you don't want to admit to the world that you are a freshman. If you are, you might end up being a living Family Guy episode.

So now the question people are going to ask me is why. Why now at age 22 am I entering the halls of college? People around that age have already graduated with a Bachelor's Degree by now.

My only answer. I wasn't ready.

I can't get into full details. If I could, it would end up being a memoir I will have to publish in the future. I'd say that only because there are so many stories to tell that would lead up to me making the decision to go to college now instead of years ago.

All I can say is my personal life took over everything. It affected me during high school and I knew I would have to handle extra baggage if I went straight to college after high school. Back when I was still living in New Orleans, the first two colleges I ever applied for (in New York) rejected me. My family and I were ready to choke each other to death based on the amount of arguing and ferocious debates that we've had for years. Most of this applies to my mother's side of the family since I didn't know my father very much.

I was devastated by a failed relationship after finding out I was secretly part of a love triangle, which I disapproved of. The economy was a wreck thanks to our former president and I felt all of it in New Orleans. The icing on the cake was a period of depression that left me unfocused.

The inner rebel was unleashed during those four years and I just wild out. I started going to nightclubs until two in the morning, doing underage drinking, attending drag shows. I needed an escape from my terrible personal life.

When opportunity came and I moved to New York, it took a couple of people to put me back to reality, but I finally saw a chance to start thinking about college again. Once I did, there was no stopping me.

I know some people might disagree with me. They'll think that my personal life shouldn't be a reason to not be thinking about college. This is my answer.

There are some people who can't micromanage like that. If their personal life takes over 90% of their life, it's difficult to focus and stay on the right track. Plus, if they try to handle both things, they'll be crashing, burning, and become more depressed than ever before. That was my prediction on my life. If I tried to handle all these things at once at an early age, it would've led to long term battles like alcoholism or anger management issues.

Now that my whole life is together, I see nothing stopping me from taking on the halls of colleges, and advancing further to the next level of independence. I now know how to let people in my personal or professional life get in my way. I know how to not only take baggage,but how to burn it instantly or place it in the closet and deal with it later.

I wasn't ready for college then, but I am now. And I'm more than willing to share those future stories with everyone.

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Stomach Problems From Supermarket Fruit

Once I did a complete body cleanse, I began to have full physical experiences on what food is real and what food has been "touched". When I expressed this to Alkaline Guru, he knew instantly what I was feeling, and gave me praise for getting a hands on experience regarding what he and everyone else continues to talk about regarding GMO products.

My first hand on experience was when I bought red plums from Whole Foods. I went grocery shopping to fill up my refrigerator with new things. Knowing how much of fan of fruit I am, I immediately walked over to the produce aisle with a empty basket at hand, ready to start filling it up with all kinds of fruit. The first things I grabbed were four plums, my second favorite fruit in the world. The first being red grapes.

I bought the plums and immediately began eating while on the train ride to my apartment. Once I got on the train, I found myself grabbing onto my stomach for dear life. It was as if the stomach acid in my body expanded and it became more hungry for my flesh. I had a cramp that hurt so much, I got my knees ready to pant. The cramps worsened so much, a pregnant woman on the train gave up her seat for me.

That's how horrible I felt.

This was my first time experiencing what happens when a healthy, fully cleansed person, consumed a item that was GMO produced. Ever since then, I've purchased fruits from markets at street fairs instead of going to supermarkets. With that decision, I've met with actual farmers telling me how long the fruit has been harvested and how companies genetically modify their products.

It was a interesting eye opener for me. I don't know if anyone had similar stories.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

I Need My/Your Charger!

I've officially became a member of the "I Need My/Your Charger" club. I didn't expect myself to be a part of this, but after having the same phone since the summer of 2013, I now know how half of America feels on a daily basis.

In the beginning, I bought this Android phone, which is the first touch screen phone I have ever owned. I've experienced the power of the touch screen by using other people's Androids and iPhone's, but I never had one to call my own due to a tiny fear of divorcing from the flip phone after seven years together. But I'm glad I did because life has gotten so much better for me.

Things were fine with my Android when it came to battery power. It could survive a 12, sometimes 20 hour period with no sweat at all. I was absolutely astounded at how much power it could contain. This was a good episode that only lasted for a couple of months.

One day, I found my charger getting ready to die after only six hours without it's charger. My eyes opened real wide and I had a business phone conference ready to happen within ten minutes. I ran over to my co-workers desk like a out of control cartoon character, and asked for his cell phone charger. He was generous enough to give it to me and I didn't miss my phone conference.

Ever since then, I've found myself needing to bring my cell phone charger everywhere. I'm happy for the fact that I have three. There is one for work. A second one for my apartment. The third is for the outside world like the mall or something. I've had good encounters with my third charger but I am always skeptical with what's going to happen if I can't find a place to charge my phone.

I began to self reflect and I now understand how everyone feels when it comes to charging their cell phones. I don't like that feeling, but this is our reality. Technology has become more advanced and dependable that it requires extra juice to stay alive. A iPhone, for example, needs more than just two hours in order to be fully charged. Charging your phones requires an overnight job, which is one of the reason why people can't wait to come home and go to bed. It's now a part of their midnight schedule.

I always have a charger with me but there is always  a 2% chance where I will need the help of someone else's.

Monday, November 4, 2013

Does The True Writer Still Exist?

Before I decided to have a second career as a social media specialist, I thought I was going to live my entire life as a full time writer. I pictured myself going to write nothing but books, short stories, screenplays, and possibly songs for other music artists. That was my mind set after years of trying to build a success in other fields of the arts like acting, producing, and how-to guiding.

My whole perspective then changed when I began to receive a huge amount of success as a social media specialist in my hometown and the first four months I've lived in New York. I'm a heavy researcher who knows and have experienced a lot of things. That's how my tiny reputation as a self-help guru became reality. So I knew a lot about social media and how to use them. Suddenly, the need to have me manage the social media pages for my friends and other random people was very much in demand due to my expertise on it.

In the end, I wind up liking it and knew instantly that I wanted to make a career out of it. Not for the money but because I loved doing it.

I went out to lunch with a old acquaintance of mine. I'll call him Ralph. We talked about a variety of things. One of the topics was about our careers. He was a well established man in his late 30s and I was the new kid in New York still trying to create a life in the city personally, professionally, and financially. Before mentioning my aspirations for social media management, I bragged to Ralph about wanting to be a writer.

It didn't take Ralph long to interrupt me, for he is someone who looks at the whole picture. So for the next couple of minutes, Ralph began expressing to me that it'll be impossible for me nowadays to try and succeed as a full time writer.

"Everyone nowadays thinks they're a writer," said Ralph. "Everyone has a blog. Everyone has videos on YouTube. Everyone is trying to get noticed in some way. I know you are a great writer, but it's going to be difficult for you to prove that you're a true writer while in a crowd of people who shouldn't have anything published to begin with."

It's been months since that conversation and that one statement is deeply stuck in my head. I took to heart everything he's said, for I know he's telling the truth.

I do agree that there are some people who think that just because they created a blog and has written content that has attracted hundreds of people, they suddenly think they're a writer. I've studied the struggles for writers from centuries ago. Most people didn't believe that people could make a living from writing full time. My pure example for the full time writing struggle is by researching Edgar Allan Poe.

With that being said, people are naturally born with the gift of writing and they deserve to be recognized for it. I love being a writer and a social media specialist and I'll stand by writing all the time since it's been in my blood since the day I was born.

What I now know for sure is that it's going to be a tiny difficult to people to show that they are true writers in a world surrounded by certain people who doesn't deserve that title.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

Technology Dependency

Technology has become a central part of our lives. It has come a long way from the time when we used to think it was a hobby. Now it is more advanced and a part of or lives more than how we expected it to be. We wont be able to last a day without technology. It's an addiction that's optional for rehab if we want it.

I began to realize during my own self experience. I woke up at a friend's place after a crazy night of partying. I was totally intoxicated the night before and I knew I couldn't make it back to my apartment. So my friend was good enough his door for me.

By the time I woke up and realized I had to go to work, I was totally aware that I wasn't going to be able to get my laptop and arrive to work on time. I left it at home and just came to work. Within the first two hours sitting in my chair, I found myself freaking out and ready to lose it. All of my work and personal things were on that computer. With the exception of my phone, I had no technology around me.

The fact that I couldn't last two hours without technology made me realize how dependent I was on technology. I was lucky to get everything done on my phone, but I had a visual statistic on how we as human beings are dependent on technology.

Do you feel the same way?

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Why Can't I Express Vulnerability?

One thing my friends know about is that I am a serious person. I take to heart every single detail in my life. I may seem intimidating or anti-social at first. But when you get to me, I actually turn out to be a cool person to hang out with me. It takes time, but you'll eventually figure it out. I take my time into welcome you to my life. I carefully observe people when I'm meeting them at first. Then when I open the door of my life to you, I will do my best to make sure you'll never leave.

However, there's one question people always ask about me. When I last time I ever cried? Why am I never vulnerable when someone is crying in front of me? Do I cold heart? Here's my answer to that all those questions.

I can't. I just can't express emotions in the moment.

For years, I've been asking myself why can't I just cry within seconds like a regular person? Why can't I express emotions when another person in front of me is crying?

I had to look at my childhood for answers. Growing up, I was bullied, teased, and picked on by friends and family. Living as an outsider has caused me to shed so many tears with my face flat on the floor. I can't tell you how many times as a kid my face was flat on the floor or ground. Some of it even carried on with me during my teenage years. I've always found myself crying and shedding tears because I was an emotional mess on the inside.

Once I became an adult, the tears just stopped. When there was a time when I had to cry in the moment, I just couldn't. My stomach will begin to cramp up and my thoughts will be racing 24/7 when it comes to serious topics, but I can never physically show my seriousness. I would express anger and happiness more often, but sadness and vulnerability is just one thing that is hard for me to express.

The first sign was when I was at my cousin's funeral. I was sitting there in the second row and I didn't cry one bit. While all of relatives were just losing it in the church, I was just frozen as a block of ice.

Based on studies I've read, humans develop a strong defense mechanism after years of crying and expressing vulnerability. They subconsciously prepare themselves for heartbreaking moments by instantly building a wall in their mind, thereby protecting themselves from hurt or pain. Of course, you will still feel pain in your stomach, but it won't show itself on your face.

That doesn't mean I'm like this all the time. Special people in my life has seen that side of me. Due to the large amounts of trust and love I had for these people, the walls came down and I seemed to be the most vulnerable person in the world. They used to think of it as a once in a blue moon moment.

I maybe a serious person, but I have my moments. I guess it takes a special person to get that side of me out of it. For me, I'm not a cold person who doesn't have a heart. I just find it difficult expressing vulnerability.

Monday, September 23, 2013

The First Week Is Always Hell

Using the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth has influenced me in a variety of ways. One of the most surprising things that I began doing is going to the gym in order to stay fit. My main goal when it comes to working out is to not have rock hard abs. I just want my muscles to hug my shirts and to remain consistent and stable.

Everyone has heard of that theory. One day, your body looks like a million bucks. The next week, you wake up in the morning and your stomach has a muffin top. Working out must be .

If you've been a consistent workout person, there's one thing that all of us are aware of that should be spoken to first timers. When it comes to the first week, expect your muscles to hurt like hell. Your body is at first not used to being worked out so much. All of these new regimes is putting it in a stock of shock, causing it to tighten up a little bit.

Reports like this proves that you are doing the right thing. Just be sure to stretch first and give yourself two days after the pain starts to occur. Once the first week in over your body will adapt to this new regime and everything will fall into place when it comes to working out.

The only thing you'll have to promise yourself that you will stay faithful to your plan and not give up. Once you stop, it'll be hard to get back up. The first week is only the beginning. If you can handle that, you will surely overcome the week after.

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Socialite Stories: The Zenbiz Trippin Travel Mixer

Last night, I had the honor of attending the The Zenbiz Trippin Travel Mixer, which was presented by the travel company Zenbiz Travel. I've always been a fan of this company and their events. It brings out the kid in me when it comes time to party.

I arrived at an event and felt well at home after encountering so many familiar faces. From Carmen Neely and Robert West of Harlem Pride to Doice John, an acquaintance of mine who just so happened to be hosting the show that night. Honestly, that was going to be my first time seeing my friend live for the second time. The last time was when I was part of the panel at a hosting event.

After talking and eating tortilla chips, the main event began. They had speakers such as Denella Ri'chard, Business Development Director of Norwegian Cruise Lines and Kier V.B. Matthews, CTIE -Vice President of Sales for Europe Express.

For someone likes me who has aspirations to travel, it was wonderful just standing there listening to the services, rooms, and accommodations that comes along with this cruise line. Makes me want to strongly consider looking into a variety of these services.

I was also laughing my face off to the woman that was hosting the show.Tammy Peay was a wonderful comedian and I know I love to laugh.

In the end, the whole event was lovely. I can't wait to attend the Zenbiz Travel event. I'll be another nerdy looking socialite dancing around like he lost his mind. Can't wait until then.

Pigeon In The Backpack

It was just another typical ending to a day in the life of a third grader in elementary school. I ran out the door with this large smirk on my face. I felt happy that I was as far away from my third grade teacher as possible. We all have that one teacher that worked on our nerves. I had three of them. One in third grade. Second in tenth grade. Third from eleventh to twelve.

I was walking to the side of the school with a friend of mine. We have our regular chit chats before he gets picked up by his parents and I get picked up by my van driver. We made it to the corner and stumbled upon this pigeon just coming onto the sidewalk after being on the street for seemingly quite a while.

The pigeon had one foot and it's wings were broken. I could tell because it was hard for it to flap it's wings. Without it's wings, the pigeon was vulnerable and helpless.

"Poor thing," I said to my friend. "If only I could take it home with me."

My elementary school friend really took that seriously and picked up the pigeon.

"What are you doing?" I asked him.

"You said that you couldn't bring it home with you," he said. "Well I can. So I'm taking it home with me."

Without a second thought, my friend jammed the pigeon in between his school books and closed the bag behind him. My guess was that the pigeon died within minutes of being in that bag. There is no way a pigeon could survive after being jammed in like that.

Within seconds, his parents arrived and he went home. I didn't say a word to them. I was just going to let his backpack do the talking.

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

One Way To Save Laundry Money

This is something that I discovered that I believe would be very helpful for us living in New York.

One of the things that the majority of us do on Saturdays and Sundays is go out to the Laundromat. It took me time to adjust to this. I’m from New Orleans, Louisiana and we always had a laundry machine in our house. But now I’m currently do have even financial stability to buy my own laundry machine and dryer. I have to go to the Laundromat just like everyone else here in this city.

In order to always have money for laundry, I do this.

I for one hate having change in my wallet. It looks weird in my wallet and it feels uncomfortable when I’m putting it in my back pocket.  Whenever I spend cash and get change in return, I save them back in my apartment, so they could be ready within the next year to be cashed in.

When I collect the change I do another separation. I split the quarters from the rest of the change. Once that happens right in front of me is my laundry money. Since the Laundromat only accept quarters, there is no longer a need to turn cash into coins. I have the coins and I can resume with my laundry day.

This is something I recommend for people who hate having change in their wallet and also hate having to turn cash into coins when it comes to their laundry. Here is a solution I found that I believe could be very helpful to others.

Monday, September 16, 2013

Never Buy One Dollar DVDs

Saturdays are my laundry days. I follow a traditional morning every time this day arrives. I wake up early in the morning, pile up my laundry, head out the door, walk eight blocks to my favorite laundromat, and let the food wash while hot wings are cooking in the oven while I'm gone.

On one particular Saturday, my regime was interrupted by a blanket lying on the sidewalk that had a collection of DVDs on it. Ranging from to comedy to sci-fi films, it was hard for me to avoid them. Growing up, the one thing I've been aware of when it came to DVDs was bootleg material. As much as I was a fan of them at first, horrible recordings of the last bootlegs I ever bought increased my disinterest in wanting to associate with that illegal world.

However, due to my temptation in looking at the clean, undamaged covers, it led me to the assumption that these DVDs were fine to buy at $1 each. So I did. I bought three DVDs for $3 and took them home along with my laundry.

I arrived at my apartment and put the movie in my laptop. Once it started playing, I became incredibly enraged by the fact that there in front of me was another bootleg video. My eyes was looking at low quality, dark screens, cameras moving back at forth. The true definition of a bootleg film. I tossed them away instantly and thought to myself "What a waste of $3."

So consider this a lesson to everyone. No matter how good they look, don't buy one dollar DVDs unless it comes from the store itself.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Take Alkaline And Eden To Work With You

One of the ways that me along with a friend of mine is saving money is by cancelling the option to order takeout during lunch time at work. We both had to admit to ourselves that the number one thing we spend our money on is food, especially when it comes to lunch. If we could remove that, our pocketbooks won't be seriously affected by our temptation in wanting to order out.

It's amazing what goes on in the mind of workaholics.

I went ahead with the idea and began cooking the very next day. I found it fun how I was cooking food for work. There in front of me was a well balanced meal and a chance for not to be tempted by the fast food restaurants that are near my workplace. I cooked barbecued chicken and steamed vegetables. I placed them in the lunch bag along with an apple and a banana. As for a beverage, I purchased Fiji water from a Duane Reade near work.

I began my work day just like everyone else. Putting my best work into the first three hours. Before I knew it lunch time arrived and everyone was leaving to grab some food. Did I go with them? No. I stayed at my desk and took out the lunch I already made from home.

While I was in the middle on consumption, I reminded myself that what I was eating was a reflection of everything I've learned using the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth. A well-balanced, yet compromised meal. It just so happens that it's with me somewhere other than at home.

I write this post to tell people that you can take the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth anywhere. It's a chance to take your knowledge and put it into action at home. So instead of constantly going through dizziness when it comes to looking at labels at grocery shops, take your already compromised ingredients from the kitchen cabinet, cook a well balanced meal, and bring it to you anywhere.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

The Cooking Compromise

You can tell yourself that you are going to make a difference in what you eat. But how many of us have actually done it? How many of us did what we were going to say.

That's what I told myself when I was right in the middle of cooking my meals.

I wrote a previous blog post last week about shopping for the right food. Well it just so happens that I found myself telling another story regarding that day. Despite being low on energy, I decided to start cooking. Many of us would've thought about using the microwave due to shopping resulting in exhaustion when you arrive home. I, on the other hand, was full of energy.

What was my solution to staying active? Cooking.

The first thing on my mind was pasta. I grabbed a couple of ingredients that was needed to make the perfect pasta. While everything was boiling and getting ready to heat up, I began to look at what I was going. It was at that moment that I wasn't balancing or compromising my eating habits. If I originally went ahead with that idea and ate what I was serving, I would've found myself slouching on the couch like Thanksgiving came early, or would've had major breakouts.

I told myself that it was time for a compromise. I can still eat what I wanted but I have to balance it with organic health products. What I like about Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth is that they don't believe in dieting. What they believe in is compromising. We can still have what we want, but we have to balance with a good regimen.

I boiled some mixed vegetables and placed some of it in the marinara sauce while it was still heating up. The vegetables I chose merged with the sauce to give it a wonderful compromise in one pot. Once the vegetables were boiled up, I placed them in a pot of boiling water and ate it along with the pasta I ate. Two green apples were added to the mix just in case.

I write this post about what it's like to be in the moment compromising over what you're cooking. Food comes and go but your health is forever. It's time for a cooking compromise.

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Kill Sunday Blues By Shopping

Some of us suffer from what I like to call "The Sunday Blues."

For me personally, it's a feeling I get every Sunday morning when I get out of bed. I call it stored exhaustion that doesn't kick in until Sunday. Once Sunday comes, a major crash kicks in, causing my mind and body to be totally exhausted.

That's exactly how I felt two Sundays ago. However, even though I felt like I wanted to faint, I still forced myself out of bed to go into the city. New York City is always an adventure and something new is always happening. You can't miss a single opportunity to go into the city and see what's going on around the corner. 

There wasn't much going on when it came to that Sunday. After traveling a couple of blocks, I found myself bored and ready to pass out due to the hot sun.

My traveling somehow led me to a nearby Whole Foods store. Once I grabbed a basket, I found myself having fun all over again. I was buying gluten free products, fruits, vegetables, chicken, pasta, etc. I looked down and I noticed that the stuff I bought was still reflecting on my experiences and the lessons I learned from using the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth. Of course, my basket had a low amount of products due to me discovering the truth about the products that are being sold at Whole Foods, but I am still grateful for all the things I've purchased.

This experience thereby influenced an idea of having to survive the Sunday blues. If you find yourself dealing with the blues on Sunday, why not go shop for your health. Go food shopping and refill your refrigerator in the process. You're doing a good thing for your mind, body, and refrigerator.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

The Boys Who Brunch Kickstarter Campaign

All of my fellow readers might have remembered back when this blog only had a view readers that I was expressing my love for the web series The Boys Who Brunch. I was absolutely captivated by this original series. The dialogues and stories were completely different from any other show that I've been watching on the internet. So every time a new episode came up, I couldn't help but to promote it and show my support.

The first season ended a while ago and I was eagerly for the next season to come. Now I can say that the show is coming back, but it will require your help. 

Series creator Mike Mitchell Jr. launched a online Kickstarter campaign asking for funding from fellow fans of the show. The goal is to raise $2,000. Click below to be part of the campaign and helped my friend out. We have to bring this show back. Every single one of ya'll will love it.

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

What To Expect For First Timers In New York City

The Regional Conference Series is right around the corner in New York City. National Youth Pride Services is bringing its popular Regional Conference Series for Black LGBT Youth, called “I Am Black Excellence” to New York City for the first time. Everything is going to happen on August 9-11, 2013.

This is going to be a first for people who never came to New York City. They have no idea what they are about to experience when they visit this legendary place during a three day conference. Where should they go? What should they do? What should they eat? Questions like this will pop up one after another. Here are some tips on what to expect what you come to this legendary city.

Diversity In Perspectives
When they say everyone lives here, they truly mean that. You can walk into a restaurant for example and could talk to a wide range of people if they are open to the idea. Some might express to you they've lived in New York City all the life and talk about life in Manhattan or Brooklyn. Or you will meet someone who will talk to you about what's it like moving from the small town or a different country to the big city. It's one story after the next and you'll be captivated by these stories and want them to talk more.

24/7 Entertainment
New York City is called "The City That Never Sleeps" for a reason. This city has 24/7 entertainment from all over the city. It can be 3 in the morning and a party is just starting or ending. One walk around the block and there could be a Deli open or order in from a 24/7 restaurant. When you walk on the streets on New York, you will never find yourself bored.

Cultures & History
New York is it's on historical landmark. A regular person who's lived here for decades can still feel like a tourist because there's always something new to discover. From historical landmarks such as the Empire State Building to independent art shows deep within a building. Every step you make is like walking into a another piece of work.

For any person that self identifies as a foodie, you won't be disappointed in New York's vast amount of restaurants, diners, bars, etc. There will come a time where you can't even keep with how many different types of food you was eating. The numbers are limitless when it comes to places. Whether you want Italian, European, Japanese, Chinese, Thai, or Mexican food, this is the perfect city.

I wish everyone a good time when they arrive in New York during the conference. I will of course be in attendance and excited for these different youth attendees to arrive and have a good time.

Monday, July 29, 2013

Body Cleanse

During the time I was changing my eating habits and going into a healthy direction, I began to notice that body was experiencing what I like to call "healthy adolescence." It's a point in life when you're body begins to reject some of the healthy things that are coming into the system due to it not being used to so much of it. 

When I began to eat more fruits and vegetables along with drinking nothing but water for a short period of time, my body began to reject it. It was confused by all this healthy food and began to do exactly what some human beings do. Instead of trying to understand it at first, the rejection of differences begins to occur. But just like life, we grown onto differences as they come along.

That's the process I'm going through when it comes to my eating habits. 

This whole experience with Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth inspired me to go through a temporary body cleanse. I went through two weeks of eating food from tuna sandwiches, fruit bowls, and salads to beverages such as Fiji Water and Citrus Juice. I do have plans to have my own glass of Detox juice, but that will be somewhere in the near future.

I'm not saying that everyone should go through a body cleanse. I'm just describing how much Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth has influenced me to take steps like this. Sometimes the tiniest influence can lead to dramatic steps that the person him/herself wants to take. 

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Allowing My Friend To Ruin His Life

I normally don't talk about my friends like this, but the recent lessons I've learned inspired me to write this incredibly personal piece.

I once had this friend. Let's call him Carl. Carl is a young, ambitious, funny, and passionate person. It didn't take me long to make him a friend of mine. We went to events together. We attended social events together. We always talked to each other on the phone. I made it a priority to make our friendship last long. 

After all, when was the last time you heard of two platonic gay men hanging out all the time? 

As our friendship got closer, I began to notice the different sides of Carl. One time, I caught him hanging out with people I associated with previously. I say previously due to the fact that I've had a history of bad experiences with these people. They lie, steal, sabotage friendships, home wreck relationships, have sex with everyone. Everything about them screamed "bad crowd."

One time when I was standing next to him, this male put his arm around him and said "Have you guys met my future husband?"

To everyone around them, it was a joke. However, it wasn't a joke for me. My brotherly love extincts kicked in and I wanted to be as far away from them as possible. I expressed my concern to Carl and I thought he would listen to me. Sadly, he didn't.

Some of my friends who also associated with him would express to me how he used to call them at 2-4 in the morning, saying that he was near the area and was wondering if he could "take a shower." To a well trained, there is more meaning to that favor. If the person calls in the wee hours of the morning asking for a shower, that means they hope to take a shower, and stay over as much as they could until the morning arrives. Stories like this has made me aware that Carl's dependability on others has been leading to a lot of dangerous situations.

How I know? I fell a victim to that one time with Carl. He called me at 3 in the morning and told me he was nearby. Of course, I let him stay over. It was snowing at the time.

The final icing on the cake when it came to Carl was that he's a slacker. There were numerous times when me and my friends have offered him amazing opportunities for paid internships and part time/full time jobs. Carl is a young man. All these opportunities only happens to people around our age demographic. That's why it's good to grab them while you can. Carl doesn't think that way and slacks around. Most of the time is on purpose.

There was a time when I wanted to help him so badly. It's due to me having a whole lot of love and care for him. When you're a friend you try your best to make sure that no one is left behind, and that everyone stays on the journey with you. But a recent conversation with an older friend of mine led me to the conclusion that it was time to let Carl go. I have to let him fall down and pick himself up on his own.

We all have friends who are like that. They are the ones that cares so much about their friends and their well-beings that they will do everything they can to make sure nothing bad happens to them. But ask yourself the same way my older friend asked me. Who told you to protect him?

I haven't heard from Carl since. He doesn't call me on the phone. He never picks up my calls. I see him every now and then at social events. So whatever is going on with his life is no longer any of concern. I'll think about him every now and then, but I do hope he is well.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

The Change In Appetite

Never in my life did I ever think I could beat what I like to call my southern tongue. I call it that because I was born and raised in New Orleans, Louisiana. When it comes to food I was exposed to deep southern food for over 20 years: fried chicken, baked beans, rice, fried fish, corn bread, beignets, craw fish, gumbo etc. I have eaten a variety of soul, southern, and creole recipes.

When you are a raised around southern hospitality you are taught to eat in moderation. No matter if you are small or big, enjoy the body that you have. I had a friend in my hometown that used to brag about her muffin top.

So when I moved to New York, and later on using the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth, I found this dramatic change in my appetite. I knew I wanted to get a little healthier, but I had no idea that my entire appetite would change dramatically.

It all started with cutting sodas and flavored drinks. Then I switched to Fiji water full time. I stopped eating fried food religiously and only saved it for two times a week. I ate more fruits and vegetables. It took a complicated time for salad to come into my life but it did. I only picked up things that were highly organic. I changed my eating habits dramatically due to my desire in wanting a dramatic change.

Within weeks, I found myself not having an appetite for the food I used to love. I once looked at a plate of dirty rice and just the smell of it turned me off entirely. Particular fried foods like shrimp and fish made my stomach ill every time I ate one. Every time I tried to drink soda my body was speaking to me, wondering why was I drinking nothing but sugar.

Alkaline Guru taught me about what was going on in my body. Eden on Earth helped me compromise and still eat in a healthy direction.

I'm now in a position where I'm working on a balance. I still eat some of things but it's compromised with healthy solutions. The one thing to know about these companies is that they don't believe in dieting. It's not even about dieting. It's about compromise. It's alright to have that burger, but be sure to put lettuce and tomatoes in it.

Monday, July 8, 2013

A Different View On Labels

One night, I went to the grocery store after noticing my refrigerator was short on food. Most of the food was eaten while the rest were thrown away. Ever since I've been following the advice of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth, my whole perspective on what I eat has changed dramatically. I've been going for healthier directions and thinking about what might happen to my body long term.

Some of the products that I used to purchase and/or eat  has been removed from my life completely. Now I've made it my life's goal to go for a more healthier direction.

I walked inside, entered an aisle, and found myself in a difficult compromise. I was looking at the shelf observing brand after brand. Label after label. My mind then became clear on what was going on. I was having a physical realization regarding the difficulty of finding healthier brands.

Ever since I've been reading pieces from the social media pages of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth, I began pointing fingers and telling myself in my mind that such and such brand was GMO (genetically modified organisms). Once the finger pointing stopped, it was hard to find the brands that was healthy for me and my body. It was such a scary thing to see, but the truth was right in front of me. I was incredibly indecisive on what I wanted to buy due to knowing the truth about the brands on the shelf.

I slowly took a third browse and finally found the right brands for me. My basket was a little smaller than I expected, but I knew it was for the best.

I'm thankful for the stuff I've learned through Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth. With Alkaline Guru's realization on food to Eden on Earth healthier direction pieces, I've slowly began the process of changing the way I operate in regards to the food I eat. There are more tales to tell and I'm happy to be a part of the ride.

Read the labels carefully. The truth is right in front of you.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Do I Look Like I Work Here?

I wasn't irritated by this at first. But then it became constant. Now I'm in a position where if someone asks me this question again, somebody might get an unexpected rant from me. For some illogical reason, whenever I walk into a store, a regular customer comes up to me, assuming that I work there.

It all started when I was doing some regular shopping over at Walgreen’s. I was looking for some honey whole wheat bread that is very compatible with the peanut butter and jelly I have at my place. I don't eat any kind of bread. I only like this one particular brand. Blame my tongue. I can't help it.

While browsing around one person came up to me asking me if I worked there. At first, I let it slide and told them that I didn't work there. Then a second person arrived on the same day asking if I work there. Once again, I let it slide. Then the third person came and I got annoyed within seconds.

I looked at myself from top to bottom, wondering why did people assume I work there. I looked at myself and jumped to the conclusion that these people were somewhat crazy. Sure, I was wearing a black and red shirt, but it was accompanied with black sweatpants that was so hairy, it looked like dogs slept all over it. How in the world did that make them believe I work there? I don't know any general store that allows their employees to wear sweatpants.

My first assumption after the entire incident was that it only happened in general stores. Then my annoyance kicked into overtime when I arrived at the Strand's store, one of my favorite bookstores in New York City.

I was inside the memoir section deciding if I was going to buy Richard Hell or The Hunger Games: Catching Fire. The movie comes out real soon. I need to keep up with the program. Once I was about to make up my mind, this seemingly crazy looking man came up to me and asked “Do you work here?”

My mind instantly told me to curse him out. He just asked me the one question that I loathe the most.

“Do I look like I work here?” I said in my mind. “I'm wearing gray pants with a gray shirt that has the Yelplogo on it. Does this entire assemble make you believe that I work here?”

Maybe it's because I'm wearing glasses. Maybe it's because I'm shorter than the average male. I don't know. What I know for sure is that I am tired of people believing that I work at wherever. I've let it slide for quite some time. Now I'm just annoyed.