Tuesday, December 31, 2013
I thought I wasn't going to publish anything new until next year, but I'm in the holiday spirit. So I am writing this post for everyone. I'm glad no one that knows me can see me right now. My face currently has that winter look. You guys know what I'm talking about. You're so occupied with wanting to stay warm and inside during winter season that your upcoming hair appointments doesn't become the topic of discussion anymore. So right now, my hair is wild and everywhere from my head to my face.
My barber is going to get quite the phone call from me.
Words cannot express how much I'm excited for the New Year. 2013 has been the most challenging year of my life when it comes to independence.
Even though people knew who I was socially, I was still a struggling artist, who was trying to show people my talent more than just showing that I was a pretty face. I had to learn that some friendships were only supposed to last for a season, and that you shouldn't get too attached when they disappear from your lives. I was self-absorbed and caught up in so pride that it led me to a lot of difficult situations because I refused to ask for help. I was enabled by people to change who I was a person in order to get recognized by people, who would look the other way because I wasn't a physical representation of what was hot and new.
My biggest revelation was right after my 22nd birthday back in September.
I was accepted into college. I moved into my new apartment following traditional paperwork standards. When I was the editor-in-chief of Gay Men of African Descent's online newsletter, people praised me for being original and stepping out of the box in a non-provocative way. My writings on Roque's Reality were viewed by hundreds of people a day. I began to not be afraid of my voice and understanding that my voice matters just like everyone else. This all happened because of one thing. Just being me and not portraying something else.
I'm so excited for the 2014. I'm going to college for the first time. I have deals with editors of magazines and websites to write original pieces for them. Roque's Reality is going live with new material as a lifestyle website. I have a new direction on life. It's kind of like an evolution and a revolution all at the time.
The beauty about New York City is that it's fast life can cause you to grow up faster while still keeping your youth. I know I'm mature, but I am far from being grown. I am going to live out my twenties until their gone. Let's have fun and enjoy the New Year.
Don't forget to write your resolutions. I know I am. Happy New Year everyone!
Wednesday, December 18, 2013
With healthy eating and a good workout regime, I've gained 22 pounds in the past two months. I'm ten pounds larger than I've ever been in my life. This was quite the shocker, for I had doubts that my short stature of 5'3 would ever reach. Normally, a short person would reach a particular goal in weight and just remain there for the rest of their life. I'm still gaining weight. So maybe my body hasn't reach that statistical limit.
Still, I've accomplished two goals when it comes to fitness: gaining weight and cutting it through work out regimes. Using the services of Alkaline Guru and Eden on Earth has been a blessing. But like all goals, in comes a new challenge.
My challenge is my endless cravings for more food. The reason for it being a challenge is because I'm not a heavy eater. I drink more than I eat. I remember finding it difficult consuming well balanced meat in my mouth, trying to reach the goal of 5,000 calories a day. Don't get me wrong. I'm a huge foodie. I love eating food. But it's kind of a different story when you realize that instead of eating out of moderation, you're eating like it's a chore.
I'm slowly adapting to eating more than I used to. All I know that this is my current challenge, which I am more than willing to concur.
Saturday, December 14, 2013
A few nights ago, I was honored to have attended the magazine launch party of Fop Magazine at the Barracuda Lounge. This was my first time at the bar, which I found very interesting and spontaneous. The party was a celebration of the first issue, which was also named the Pleasure Issue.
Fop magazine is a fashion and lifestyle magazine geared towards gay men. What I love about the issue is that it's a balance without being oversexed. I look at some magazines and think they are there is too much sexual content in it. Even though it's an attractive thing to see, there needs to be a balance or else the message and the material will be overshadowed. Fop did a wonderful balance with the pleasure and I want everyone to read this wonderful new magazine.
As soon as I walked through the door, I was greeted by this man, who I later realized was Quentin Fears, the editor-in-chief of the magazine. We had a few conversations during the entire night, which were all funny and entertaining. I found him to be great company with an amazingly energetic personality.
While I was sitting down reading the first issue, I couldn't help but to notice the television screens were mirroring the theme of the party. It was displaying a variety of pleasurable scenes. I couldn't help but to notice the many scenes. One minute after the next, I was looking at bedroom sex, BDSM, outdoor sex, shower sex, bathroom make outs, etc. I'm sure the average horny male would try and steal that slide show from the cinematographer's laptop.
Still, the overall party was outstanding. I'm grateful to have met the people I went to. Congratulations to Quentin Fears for his amazing work. Can't wait for the next one.
Thursday, December 12, 2013
One day, I had the delight meeting Tyrone Farley, who is the editor-in-chief of True Fashionista Now, a wonderful fashion website that I can now call myself a fan of.
In the middle of getting to know one another and talking about what I do, he asked me to write a piece the opening a new store in Manhattan. I was excited to write a piece like this. It was my first time writing a article for a fashion magazine. There was slight nervousness due to not much experience in writing about fashion. However, I was confident that I could do this piece.
Before I know it, I went to the party and created a socialite/fashion piece in a matter of hours while still having a great time with the people I've met. With that being said, click on the link below and check it out my contributing fashion article to True Fashionista Now.
Monday, December 9, 2013
We all have those moments when we felt like something that happened came from right out of a movie. Mines was a few days ago on my way to the train station.
I was leaving my apartment and heading over to the train station to begin my day. It was slightly raining outside, but it didn't bother me, for I was too focused on trying to get the right music on my Android phone playing. David Guetta was on my mind most of the time that day.
My walking got me over to the end of the block and one more block away from the train station. My Android got me so distracted that I didn't realize that there was a puddle of water right in front of me. It was too late at that point.
Two cars drove by me and I got splashed on as they drove by. The driver looked back for a moment, but then retreated, so that they wouldn't talk to me.
It's amazing how things like this happen unexpectedly.
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
There are many young people like me that considers ourselves "old souls." Based on the many things I've experienced at an early age, I can't help but to notice that my maturity and perspectives on my life is well beyond my current early 20s. Sometimes, you ask yourself "Why am I experiencing all of this right now? I'm only in my 20s."
Life doesn't give you a proper answer. You can't help but to just go in the right direction of where your life is taking you. That's how I look at my life all the time.
I have lots of older friends. Most of my friends are in their 30s and above. I know most people consider that weird, but that was my life as like for the last three years. I'm sure I'll be clicking people permanently around my age when I entered the halls of college, but I'm just describing my current friendships.
These are the first of many examples why I seemingly grew up faster. But after a recent encounter with a few established older people, my true age was showing itself.
I was having a meeting with a few well established businessmen. There I was, acting all mighty, talking the way I'm always talking, etc. They rolled their eyes at me and paused me.
"How old are you?" they asked.
"I'm 22," I answered.
"Why are you trying to act old? You're far from trying to speak the way you speak. Just act like your age. You don't have to act grown to try and convince. Be young with a young taste in work."
It was in that moment that my true age came out. The wall of maturity I've been building for years was suddenly destroyed in one statement. I didn't know how to come up with a defense in that moment. I was totally embarrassed for I knew he was right. I was 22 trying to act 40, but this already 40 year old saw through my act, and embarrassed me in less than a minute.
I walked out that meeting realizing that I had to accept the truth. I am young and mature, but I got a long way to go before I call myself a grown man. Until then, I'm going to live my 20s the way it's supposed to be. Dancing, socializing, career obsessed, everything.