Saturday, February 7, 2015

A Relationship Doesn't Require Public Approval

It’s quite funny looking at how couples operate when they decide that’s time to publicize their relationships. This is exactly why many people say that it is often better if you don’t make your relationship public.

When a couple becomes public about their relationship there appears to be some sort of internal desire in wanting their peers to critique, and in the end, approve of the relationship. It can be speaking about the two of them at the café with their friends. It can even be sharing a Facebook picture of the two of them having a good time. In some sort of subliminal way, it’s a sign that the couple is asking for validation about their relationship when it comes to their peers.

I didn’t quite understand this until I was watching an episode of Will & Grace. Will didn’t know if he liked a guy named Vince unless it was validated by Grace. I may understand relationships in that scenario, but I find the overall way of doing things regarding 21st century relationships is completely ridiculous.

Here is something people don’t tell you. Your relationship doesn’t require public validation. The relationship began with the two of you, and it should stay that way. Bringing more people into your relationship is only going to make things more complicated, and the results are always going to be the same. It will result in the two of you breaking up and resenting each other for a long time.

When it comes to figuring out what your relationship is and what it’s going to be, it should always be the way it is: between the two of you. If things are going to go wrong, at least it didn’t require a third party to put the key in the ignition.

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