Monday, January 9, 2017

I'm Not Going To Chase After You, My Date!

When it comes to dating there comes a time when we need to stop playing this what I call a cat and mouse game as we're dating people here and there. You guys know what game we're talking about. You meet someone. You hang out for a while. Then the person disappears, returns to your life, and then disappears again while leaving you guessing where the two of you stand. You don't understand, but the other person is playing a cat and mouse game with you, leading you on with their own methods.

I've dated enough people to understand this pattern, and believe me when I say that enough is enough. When it comes to dating there needs to be a concrete statement towards the two of you on where you all stand.

If you want to tell someone how you feel, don't play with their emotions. Pick up the phone and schedule a date, whether it's on the phone or at the nearby cafe. Put your feelings out on the table and move on. If these series of dates result in the two of falling growing apart, that's when you be honest with each other instead of ghosting the person. An event like this will cause the broken hearted to feel like a deer in the headlights. They didn't expect this to happen and it feels like their heart was hit by a car.

Let it be known to society when it comes to individuals like me. If I like you and want to get to know, I will make an effort to create a relationship, but not only do I expect the other person to put the work in, don't expect me to be chasing after you, wondering why we were in touch for so much, why did it suddenly stop?

My life is already occupied as it is with college and my career. It doesn't have space for childlike games.

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